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Saturday, March 19, 2022

Quote vặt 14

If you are just "employed" in Cyber Security, you are at risk. Here's why.

Most people like to conform. They put all their trust into the company they work for. They work hard and hope to get that 3% pay raise they think they are entitled to. They hope in a few more years they will earn that extra week of vacation. They also hope to get that promotion they've been wanting "if" management thinks they deserve it. However, that's a lot of hope.

Why do people do this? Because it's comfortable.

However, comfortable is VERY dangerous place to be.

I've never been one to conform to that mindset. Let me explain.

Let's face it. Most businesses go into business for one reason. It's profit. If they can eliminate a position or replace someone with a more economical option, they will sometimes do it. That's ok though because it is their business, and they are entitled to it.

What most people don't realize is that many states have "at-will" employment. This means that the business at any time can make cuts, give work to contractors, or make other personnel changes to save money. They are not obligated to employ you. They don't owe you anything but your last paycheck.

I was a victim of this many years back. I had a great job and made a fantastic income. I did well at my job and loved it. However, I was eliminated because a contractor was cheaper. I lost my job. It was all about bottom line. I had kids, bills, and food to put on the table.

It was then that I realized how dangerous it was to put all your trust into your job or the company you work for. Yes, there are fantastic companies out there including the one that I work for now. However, that business is not responsible for your livelihood. Why?

Because you are.

Your well-being relies on your personal brand. What does this mean?

Your personal brand is the following:

1. What you are about

What do you stand for? What do you like to be around? Are you someone that people want to be around?

2. How good you are at what you do (technically)

How well do you stack against others in this field? Are there solid reasons they should pick you over others? Do you have what it takes?

3. How well you market yourself

You may be great at everything above, but how do others know this? Are you out there (i.e, LinkedIn) proactively and found by employers and opportunities?

Even when you are in that dream position, you need to take care of your personal brand. Your inbox should be filled up with messages from recruiters that want you. Why? Even though you are happy, it is a great sign that your brand is attractive, and that opportunity is still coming your way. Keep the pipeline full.

What would your employment gap be if you lost your current job? Will your personal brand carry you to the next opportunity within a week or two? If not, you have work to do.

Rely on your brand, not your employer.

Source: Mike Miller Linkedin

Wednesday, February 26, 2020

Joe Hisaishi quotes 01

Image result for joe hisaishi piano

Is there a secret to writing good music? Do you have any advice for any young composers?

Think about it all the time.

Out of all your songs, do you have a favorite?

There is nothing, in particular, that is best. But I do not look back on the past.

Source: kotaku

Tuesday, January 1, 2019

Why do people chat so much?

While you chat on text format you have following advantages which are not there when you are face to face.

  1. You get that extra time to frame your answers and further questions without the scrutiny of a keen pair of eyes.
  2. Your appearances does not matter.
  3. Your presence of mind does not matter as much. You have time to be funny or witty.
  4. Your facial expression do not matter and you can easily fake an expression.
  5. It's easier to lie.
  6. It's easier to say the truth.
  7. It's gives us a blanket of no direct onslaught.

Basically, you are a better version of yourself.

When it comes to a face to face rendezvous:

  1. A slight uninterest in the face of the person who is listening to your well formulated crap puts you off. And the person gives it away till he/she can feign any interest.
  2. You take a little more time than spontaneity to frame you witty one liners.
  3. A uncombed stand of hair or unshaven beard or a pimple or poorly ironed shirt has already depleted half of your confidence.
  4. And so on.

Wednesday, September 19, 2018

Five things your salary history says about you

Dear Liz,

I generally love your advice but I strongly disagree with your take on salary history. You say that a person's salary history is private. Why should it be private? It's part of your professional persona. Should your work history also be private? Of course not.

As a hiring manager I need to know what other managers paid you in the past. Don't I deserve to know what level of experience and quality I'm getting in a new hire?

A candidate's salary history tells me a lot about them. It tells me when and how much they grew over their career. I want that information and I'm dismayed that you keep telling candidates to keep that information away from me (and other hiring managers).

Where's the flaw in my argument?

Thanks Liz,

Noah

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Dear Noah,

There is no flaw in your argument, because there is no argument. People who say, "I want it -- give it to me!" are generally either three years old, or considered immature by other people.

You want someone's salary history and therefore you should get it -- that's your argument?

People in Hell want ice water, so they say.

Let's flip the roles and see if your "argument" holds up. Job candidates would love to know what you and your fellow managers are getting paid. They would love to know how much money your company made last year, and how much of that money went into the pockets of the company's executives.

They would love to know how much your personal compensation is affected by your ability to manage a budget, including your willingness to pay employees below-market wages.

None of that information, of course, is available to job applicants or to employees. It is unreasonable to ask for and expect information from the candidate while sharing nothing whatsoever with that candidate regarding your company's financial situation, its executive comp plans or even information about how your current employees stack up relative to the local labor market. It's heavy-handed. It's unfair.

Only weak and inexperienced recruiters and managers need to know someone's salary history in order to evaluate that person's market price tag. I am confident talking to anyone for ten minutes and then telling them what I think they can command in the job market. You can cultivate the same skill if you want to!

Here are five things a person's salary history says (and doesn't say) about them:

1. A person's salary history tells you how much they got paid at each job they've held.

2. A person's salary history doesn't convey their worth to a new employer in a new role. There are many reasons people take jobs below their capability (and market value). Every assignment is different, and the level of pain also differs from organization to organization.

3. A person's salary history doesn't tell us how good they are at their job.

4. A person's salary history doesn't convey their passion, enthusiasm or teamwork.

5. Salary history is useless as a gauge of a person's talent. There are overpaid and underpaid people everywhere.

I used to hire engineers and IT folks from all over the world. Many of them had no idea what they were worth in the U.S. labor market. We had to pay them fairly.

We hired brilliant folks coming out of school. They had no useful salary history. So what? We still had to pay them a fair market wage for their contribution.

When you hire career-changers, people returning to the paid workforce, returning military service members, new grads, former consultants and any other type of non-cookie-cutter candidate, you are going to have to assign a market value without being able to apply their salary history even if you know it.

It's a good skill to learn!

Step out of fear and into your leadership power. The air is much clearer up here. Try it and you will see!

All the best,

Liz

Source: forbes.com

Should I tell my boss I'm leaving -- unless I get a raise?

Dear Liz,

I've been in my job for 18 months.

When I took the job, I badly needed employment.

I took the job for a ridiculously low salary. If I hadn't been so desperate, I would have turned it down.

I spent a year revamping our marketing program from the ground up. I know my hard work made a difference.

This company's marketing program was a disaster when I started the job, and now it rocks.

I was very glad to get the experience and the resume fodder as you call it, but I also need to get paid fairly.

For the entire first year my boss told me, "I know you're underpaid. Don't worry, I'll take care of you when your annual review comes around."

My review came around at my one-year anniversary.

I designed a Power Point presentation to show my boss and his boss what I had accomplished.

My boss said, "This is great information. I'm going to get you a big raise."

I got a $4000 annual increase. It was a bigger pay increase than my company usually gives out, but it still didn't get me up to the market rate for my job. It's not even close.

The good news is that headhunters constantly reach out to me to tell me about other jobs that pay at least $10K more than I'm earning now.

I don't tell them my current salary. If I did, they would assume I'm not qualified to move up.

I know I could get a better-paying job but I like my job.

I like my boss. He knows I'm drastically underpaid even after getting that $4000 increase. He says, "The problem is that you just got a $4000 raise six months ago and my boss will have a hard time understanding why you need another raise so soon."

Should I tell my boss that he's going to lose me if I don't get at least another $4000 pay increase?

If I play that card and give my boss an ultimatum, then I have to follow through with it. If he doesn't give me a big raise, I have to keep my word and leave.

If I tell my boss I'm going to quit unless I get another raise, he might feel resentful. He might start to see me as an enemy. Right now, he sees me as his right hand.

I don't know what to do.

Help!

Thanks Liz -

Yours,

Shawn

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Dear Shawn,

When you see your life as a path you are walking, you will see that other people's paths can intersect with yours.

Sometimes we walk alongside someone for a short time. Sometimes we walk alongside them for years before our paths and theirs go in different directions. It's not fair to expect someone to continue to walk alongside you if their path doesn't lead that way.

Your boss hired you when you needed a job. He gave you the opportunity to do some wonderful and valuable things that grew your flame and helped your company succeed. He went to bat for you and got you a raise. That raise didn't get you to the market level for the job you do, but it was the best your boss could do.

Your boss was honest. He told you how far he can step. He can't step far enough to keep you. That doesn't make him a bad guy. It just means that you and your boss are on different paths. Why ask your boss to try and be someone he isn't?

Your boss doesn't have the juice to go back to his boss and argue for another pay increase. You are pushing on a rope, as the expression goes.

You are hoping against hope that your boss suddenly becomes your fearless champion. He's not going to do that. He works for a company that underpays people. He's probably underpaid himself. He hired you at a galley-slave wage, so he knows the company is frugal to the point of self-destructiveness but he still keeps his job.

Don't threaten to quit or give your boss an ultimatum. That won't help. If he gave you a raise just to keep you on board for a while, he would resent being pushed into a corner. Just start a stealth job search and move on.

It is hard to let go. It is hard to say, "I got what I came to this job to get, and now it's time to get back on my path." It's hard to do, but it's essential.

Don't say another word to your boss about your below-market pay. Just start taking calls from headhunters and take a job that feels like the next, best move for you. When you've accepted the offer, let your boss know that you appreciate everything he's done for you and that you will be leaving the company.

We only frustrate ourselves when we expect people around us to be more than they can be at any given moment. Your boss is who he is. Accept that and accept the fact that your flame is still growing. You will leave this job and team up with people whose flames are bigger than your boss's flame is right now.

Don't judge your boss or anyone else who disappoints you.

They are not doing the things they do and saying the things they say to hurt you. They are only trying to protect themselves -- something we all do, and something that fearful people do more than most.

One day you will look back and be grateful that your boss nudged you back on your path -- exactly where you need to be!

All the best,

Liz

Source: forbes.com

Monday, April 23, 2018

Bạn già



Sau này dù có thế nào thì chúng ta vẫn sẽ là anh em. Giàu thì chơi với nhau kiểu giàu, nghèo thì chơi kiểu nghèo, xin đừng quên nhau là được. Chơi được với nhau đã khó, giữ được tình cảm dài lâu còn khó hơn.
Đừng vì đồng tiền mà quên đi mình đã từng là bạn, đồng cam cộng khổ bên nhau.

Saturday, April 7, 2018

Signs of maturity

  1. Small talks no longer excite you.
  2. Sleep is better than a Friday night out.
  3. You forgive more.
  4. You become more open-minded.
  5. You respect differences.
  6. You don't force love.
  7. You accept heartaches.
  8. You don't judge easily.
  9. You sometimes prefer to be silent than to engage in a nonsense fight.
  10. Your happiness doesn't depend on people but on your inner self.

Source: ThinkingHumanity

Saturday, January 13, 2018

Quote vặt 08

Khi giữa việc thu thập thông tin và hành động mất ít thời gian hơn, ai cũng trở thành nhà phê bình hay nhà bình luận tin tức, thế giới trở thành một nơi khó chịu hơn, ít suy tư hơn. Có lẽ còn nguy hiểm hơn rất nhiều. 
Tôi đã nhận được nhiều lời phê bình khi bắt đầu sự nghiệp của mình 35 năm trước. “Cái này đâu thể gọi là tiểu thuyết,” các nhà phê bình lớn tuổi nổi giận. “Đây đâu phải văn chương!” Tôi thấy khá nản lòng trước những cuộc tấn công liên tục ấy, nên tôi đã rời Nhật Bản nhiều năm và ra nước ngoài sống, nơi tôi có thể viết gì mình muốn trong yên bình, không có những tiếng ồn liên tục. Nhưng chưa bao giờ tôi hoài nghi cách tiếp cận của mình hay cảm thấy đặc biệt lo lắng về những gì mình làm. “Tôi không viết khác được, nên hoặc chấp nhận hoặc chối bỏ nó thôi” là phản ứng của tôi với các nhà phê bình. Văn của tôi chưa hoàn hảo, nhưng từ lúc ấy tôi đã chắc chắn là nếu cứ tiếp tục thì tôi có thể cho ra đời thứ gì đó đẹp đẽ hơn. Tôi đã tin mình đang đi theo con đường đúng đắn và giá trị các tác phẩm của tôi sẽ trở nên rõ ràng hơn theo thời gian. Tôi to gan lớn mật lắm!
Source: Haruki Murakami: Vậy thì tôi nên viết gì đây? (https://hoanghannom.com)

Thursday, September 21, 2017

15 Câu thiền ngữ thức tỉnh tâm hồn bạn

1. Sở dĩ người ta đau khổ là do đeo đuổi những thứ sai lầm.
2. Bạn hãy luôn cảm ơn những ai tạo ra nghịch cảnh cho bạn.
3. Khi đang vui, bạn nên nghĩ rằng niềm vui này không vĩnh hằng. Khi đau khổ, bạn hãy nghĩ rằng nỗi đau này cũng không trường tồn.
4. Mỗi một vết thương đều là một sự trưởng thành.
5. Đừng nên có thái độ bất mãn người khác hoài. Bạn hãy quay về kiểm điểm chính mình mới đúng. Bất mãn người khác là chuốc khổ cho chính mình.
6. Hủy diệt người chỉ cần một câu, xây dựng người lại mất ngàn lời.
7. Thật sự không cần quay đầu lại xem người nguyền rủa bạn là ai? Chẳng lẽ khi bị chó điên cắn một phát, bạn phải chạy đến cắn con chó đó một phát?
8. Đừng bao giờ lãng phí một giây phút nào để nghĩ nhớ đến người bạn không hề yêu thích.
9. Những thứ không đạt được, chúng ta sẽ luôn cho rằng nó đẹp đẽ, chính vì bạn hiểu nó quá ít, bạn không có thời gian ở chung với nó. Nhưng rồi một ngày nào đó khi bạn hiểu sâu sắc, bạn sẽ phát hiện nó vốn không đẹp như trong trí tưởng tượng của mình.
10. Hao tổn tâm lực để chú ý người khác sao bằng dành chút tâm lực phản tỉnh bản thân?
11. Muốn không hối hận về sau thì đừng khư khư về cách nghĩ của mình.
12. Khi sống thành thật với chính mình, không ai trên đời sẽ lừa dối bạn được.
13. Muốn hiểu một người có thật lòng không, chỉ cần xem điểm xuất phát và mục đích của họ có giống nhau không.
14. Im lặng là một câu trả lời hay nhất của sự phỉ báng.
15. Đừng vì một chút tranh chấp mà đánh mất tình bạn chí thân. Đừng vì một chút oán giận mà quên đi thâm ân của người khác.

St.

Thursday, July 21, 2016

Quote vặt 06

Một thanh niên hỏi một vị cao nhân: "Làm thế nào để trở thành một người vui vẻ và đem lại niềm vui cho người khác?"

Vị cao nhân vui vẻ trả lời: 

"Có bốn loại cảnh giới, ngươi có thể lĩnh hội điều tuyệt vời trong đó. Đầu tiên là: "Phải coi mình là người khác" – đây là "vô ngã". Thứ hai là: "Phải coi người khác là chính mình" – đây là "từ bi". Thứ ba là: "Phải coi người khác là bản thân họ" – đây là "trí tuệ". Cuối cùng là: "Phải coi mình chính là mình" – đây là "tự tại"."

Thursday, May 5, 2016

Give it five minutes

A few years ago I used to be a hothead. Whenever anyone said anything, I’d think of a way to disagree. I’d push back hard if something didn’t fit my world-view.

It’s like I had to be first with an opinion – as if being first meant something. But what it really meant was that I wasn’t thinking hard enough about the problem. The faster you react, the less you think. Not always, but often.

It’s easy to talk about knee jerk reactions as if they are things that only other people have. You have them too. If your neighbor isn’t immune, neither are you.

This came to a head back in 2007. I was speaking at the Business Innovation Factory conference in Providence, RI. So was Richard Saul Wurman. After my talk Richard came up to introduce himself and compliment my talk. That was very generous of him. He certainly didn’t have to do that.

And what did I do? I pushed back at him about the talk he gave. While he was making his points on stage, I was taking an inventory of the things I didn’t agree with. And when presented with an opportunity to speak with him, I quickly pushed back at some of his ideas. I must have seemed like such an asshole.

His response changed my life. It was a simple thing. He said “Man, give it five minutes.” I asked him what he meant by that? He said, it’s fine to disagree, it’s fine to push back, it’s great to have strong opinions and beliefs, but give my ideas some time to set in before you’re sure you want to argue against them. “Five minutes” represented “think”, not react. He was totally right. I came into the discussion looking to prove something, not learn something.

This was a big moment for me.

Richard has spent his career thinking about these problems. He’s given it 30 years. And I gave it just a few minutes. Now, certainly he can be wrong and I could be right, but it’s better to think deeply about something first before being so certain you’re right.

There’s also a difference between asking questions and pushing back. Pushing back means you already think you know. Asking questions means you want to know. Ask more questions.
Learning to think first rather than react quick is a life long pursuit. It’s tough. I still get hot sometimes when I shouldn’t. But I’m really enjoying all the benefits of getting better.

If you aren’t sure why this is important, think about this quote from Jonathan Ive regarding Steve Jobs’ reverence for ideas:
And just as Steve loved ideas, and loved making stuff, he treated the process of creativity with a rare and a wonderful reverence. You see, I think he better than anyone understood that while ideas ultimately can be so powerful, they begin as fragile, barely formed thoughts, so easily missed, so easily compromised, so easily just squished.
That’s deep. Ideas are fragile. They often start powerless. They’re barely there, so easy to ignore or skip or miss.

There are two things in this world that take no skill: 1. Spending other people’s money and 2. Dismissing an idea.

Dismissing an idea is so easy because it doesn’t involve any work. You can scoff at it. You can ignore it. You can puff some smoke at it. That’s easy. The hard thing to do is protect it, think about it, let it marinate, explore it, riff on it, and try it. The right idea could start out life as the wrong idea.
So next time you hear something, or someone, talk about an idea, pitch an idea, or suggest an idea, give it five minutes. Think about it a little bit before pushing back, before saying it’s too hard or it’s too much work. Those things may be true, but there may be another truth in there too: It may be worth it.


Wednesday, December 30, 2015

The persuit of happiness


Mình nhớ lúc xem The Pursuit of Happiness. Đoạn cảm động nhất không phải là lúc Chris Gardner chạy ra khỏi công ty thực tập, vỗ đôi tay mà khóc vì hạnh phúc.

Đó là lúc con trai Christopher hỏi Gardner thế này:

“Mẹ bỏ đi có phải là vì con không bố.”

Gardner - người phải đi bán máu, người phải xách hai tay vài chục cân hành lý, lang thang khắp các ga tàu, ngủ ở trong một cái toa lét công cộng, thức trông con và học bài, người chỉ còn có 21 đô 25 cent trong tài khoản với cái bụng rỗng và một đứa con trai mếu máo chờ bố - người bị vợ bỏ đi vì không kiếm nổi tiền - đã trả lời thế này:

“Con đừng bao giờ có suy nghĩ ấy một lần nữa. Mẹ bỏ đi là vì mẹ. Mẹ có hạnh phúc của mẹ. Mẹ có lựa chọn của mẹ. Con hiểu không?”

Rất có thể với nhiều người trải qua những lúc bĩ cực như thế, vợ bỏ đi trong lúc nghèo khó và cần chỗ dựa nhất - Gardner hoàn toàn có thể “nhân” một cơn ức chế mà nhồi những thứ đen tối nhất về người mẹ vào đầu Christopher. “Mẹ con tệ lắm, mẹ mày là đứa khốn nạn, mẹ mày bỏ nhà theo giai… blah blah blah” - nghe rất quen phải không.

Nhưng Gardner không làm vậy. Anh cắn răng khóc trong toa lét công cộng, đói lả đi vì vừa bán máu mà không còn tiền ăn. Anh không làm vậy.

Bao nhiêu người trong số chúng ta làm được điều đó?


Những người cũ, đi và đến với cuộc đời mỗi chúng ta đều là duyên phận cả. Có người đi đường ngắn. Có người đi chặng đường dài. Có người theo ta cả đời. Có người bỏ ta chỉ sau vài lần gặp gỡ. Nhưng mỗi người đều là thứ mà số phận gửi gắm, họ đều có mục đích nào đó, nhiều khi chỉ để dạy ta một bài học.

Có lần mình đã viết, với người cũ không bao giờ mình quay lại trách cứ. Không một lần nào. Nhiều người cho là mình giả tạo, nói dối. Thật ra cách nhìn cuộc đời của mỗi người mỗi khác, cách tiếp cận mỗi vẫn đề cũng đều dựa trên cảm tính của cá nhân.

Nhưng chẳng phải đã yêu ai, hay từng yêu ai. Con tim luôn mong người mình yêu hạnh phúc hay sao?


Chúng ta đuổi theo hạnh phúc. Nó luôn xa vời. Nhưng nó không bao giờ nằm ở đích đến. Vì đến nơi, chúng ta rồi sẽ rời đi, rồi sẽ muốn hơn. Hạnh phúc nằm trên quãng đường mà chúng ta đã đi.

Vậy nên “pursuit” - “theo đuổi” - “cái mà người ta dành thì giờ, nghị lực cho nó” - cũng có lý do cả.

From BeP

Thursday, December 10, 2015

Cảm xúc là bản năng, khống chế cảm xúc là bản lĩnh

Bố tôi vừa mua một cái smartphone, hỏi tôi cách mở wifi, tôi nói mà ông mãi không hiểu, tôi nhắc lại ông vẫn nói là ông không biết. Lúc ấy tôi ức chế, gào lên: “Thôi, bố đừng hỏi nữa, con không biết đâu!” Không biết khi ấy bố tôi đau lòng như thế nào. Ngày nhỏ, khi tôi chưa biết thứ gì, bố tôi đã kiên nhẫn dạy tôi bước đi, dạy tôi học nói, dạy tôi ăn cơm… Giờ mỗi lần nghĩ lại đều thấy hối hận…

Cái gì cũng nói toạc ra, cái gì cũng bộc phát hết không phải là thẳng tính, mà là thiếu giáo dục.

IQ đã thấp thì không thể khiến EQ cũng thấp theo được.

Nổi giận là bản năng, khống chế cảm xúc là bản lĩnh.

Vì bố tôi không phải tỷ phú, người yêu tôi không phải đại gia, tôi không giỏi, không đẹp, không có khả năng muốn làm gì thì làm. Vậy nên phải học được cách kiềm chế bản thân, để trở thành một người bình thường không tầm thường.

Tất cả những cảm xúc không tốt, đơn giản đều đến từ kì thị, mập lên, thiếu tiên và không có người yêu.

Tính tốt là do cọ xát nhiều mà thành, tính xấu là do bị chiều mà ra. Người sửa được tính cách của bạn là người bạn yêu, người chịu được tính cách của bạn là người yêu bạn.

Nếu bạn đúng, bạn không cần phải nổi giận. Nếu bạn sai, bạn không có tư cách nổi giận.

Sai lầm lớn nhất của chúng ta chính là lưu lại tất cả những tật xấu, những cảm xúc tiêu cực nhất cho những người thân yêu nhất.

Nếu ngay cả cảm xúc của bản thân mà còn không khống chế được thì dù cho bạn cả thế giới, sớm hay muộn bạn cũng sẽ phá hủy tất cả.

Một lời hay có thể sưởi ấm cả mùa đông, một câu không hay làm rét lạnh cả tháng Sáu. Bạn sẽ không biết được một lời buột miệng lúc nóng giận của bạn có thể tổn thương người khác như thế nào, kể cả đó là những người thân thiết nhất. Càng trưởng thành càng phải học được cách bao dung, học được cách khống chế cảm xúc. Đừng để những xúc động nhất thời khiến bạn vuột mất người bạn yêu thương nhất.

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Tuesday, June 2, 2015

I refuse being ugly your way


Tuesday, May 26, 2015

Learning more than one language at the same time


“Is it possible to learn more than one language at the same time, and if so, how should I go about doing it?”  Well, the answer is yes, it is possible to learn more than one language at the same time.  But, before I give tips and guidance on doing this, I want to share a few of my thoughts on this interesting topic.

Until recently, I never felt the need to learn more than one language at a time. Now that I think about it, my strict “one language only” approach was mainly for three reasons: (1) I was never in a hurry to learn languages; (2) once I chose a language, I was so involved in the learning process that I had no desire to deal with others; and (3) learning only one language at a time gave me the opportunity to polish the ones I previously learned.  Now, I’ll discuss these factors in detail.

1. Haste is your enemy

The modern world is obsessed with a “here-and-now” compulsion which is particularly harmful to language learning. It is no wonder that in Italian, as well as in many other languages, a long series of proverbs exist on the pernicious effects that haste has on our lives.  For example, “Haste is a bad counsellor,” “Slow and steady wins the race,” and so on. The first six months of the learning process are the most delicate, and one needs to focus on a given language daily and dedicate to it quality work. Time is a luxury that modern men lack, so if you split it between two, three, or even four different activities, the quality of your learning will suffer.  Therefore, I personally recommend learning one language at a time.

2. Building a language core

The language learning process  involves the use and memorization of words, structures, and sounds; however, emotions, colours, images, and memories are also involved and contribute to what I call a “language core.”  Acquiring this language core is extremely important if one wants to keep the language alive in their head, even long after not having used it.  Moreover, it takes time to build a language core, so attempting to speed through the learning process with multiple languages can cause language cores to overlap, or simply prevent even one from forming.

3. Optimizing your time

Picking up a new language doesn't prevent one from keeping and even refining the ones he previously learned and are obviously at a higher level. The trick is having good time management skills.  By trial and error, you want to find a sustainable schedule to learn languages.

The two students’ race

In order to better illustrate what I mean by “managing one’s time,” here’s a story I call “The Two Students’ Race.” Two students (both Italian) decide to compete for a challenging and ambitious goal: learning ten foreign languages. The judges give them a ten year “time budget,” and the rest is up to them.

Student A decides that he will pick up two languages every two years.  He starts by learning English and Spanish. At the end of the two years, he picks up French and German. While learning French and German, he enjoys conversing with native speakers in both English and Spanish, languages he now speaks with a certain level of fluency. He also loves reading books. By the end of the fourth year, he is relatively fluent in German and French, so he starts learning Portuguese and Swedish. At the same time, he moves to Paris where he gets the chance to use the four languages he learned and continue to actively learn Portuguese and Swedish. At the beginning of the sixth year, he decides to learn Mandarin and Romanian. Two years later, he finally picks up Japanese and Dutch. Then ten years later, when time is up, he speaks English, Spanish, French, and German fluently; Portuguese, Swedish, Mandarin and Romanian well; and Japanese and Dutch decently. He has weak languages, but he reached the admirable goal of building a core in more than five languages.  Moreover, he will never forget these five languages.  He could get rusty in them, but they will quickly come back to him.

Student B goes for the same languages, but opts for a completely different strategy—he starts learning the ten languages all at the same time. Over the years, he lacks the consistency and patience to hold onto all the languages he is learning. Sometimes he learns five, sometimes six or seven, but never ten per day. He might have brought some languages to a good level, but for the most part, his languages are at a basic level. He confuses languages such as Italian and Spanish, and Dutch and German. Many of his languages are destined to regress to a very basic level because the student did not build a linguistic core for any language.

Now, the example is a bit extreme, but it gives you the general idea. People delude themselves into thinking that doing multiple things at the same time will accelerate the learning process when, in fact, it damages the learning process. Remember the story of the tortoise and the hare?  Well, be the tortoise.  Patience and aiming for a long-term goal will bring you success.

Tips and guidance for learning multiple languages at the same time

For the last 20 years, I was similar to Student A in that I picked up a new language every two years while refining the ones I knew.  Now, I learn two languages every two years, while refining the ones I know.  So, although I suggest learning one language at a time, if you decide to take on this “multi-language challenge,” make sure you have the following:

–  A fair amount of time to dedicate to language learning
–  Willpower
–  Some experience in language learning
–  Good time management skills

Guidelines

If you decide to take on this “multi-language challenge,” here are some useful tips.

1) Choose a maximum of TWO languages at any given time. Three languages is excessive and will impair whatever language core you’re trying to build.

2) Choose two languages that are distinct from each other. Languages that are similar can overlap by way of words, grammar, emotions, memories, and other factors, thereby causing confusion.  Therefore, learning Spanish AND Italian, Dutch AND German, or Portuguese AND Romanian at the same time is not a good idea.

3) Try to choose an “easy” language and a relatively “difficult” one (I explain this concept both in English and Spanish on YouTube)

4) If you choose two languages that are at fairly opposite ends of the complexity scale, give the difficult language 70-80% of your budgeted time, and give the “easy” one 20-30% of your budgeted time.

5) Study both languages every day.

Conclusion

Be the tortoise.  Language learning is a slow marathon that takes time, quality work, and patience. Every language is an adventure. I usually suggest learning one thing at a time, but there are no set rules. If you decide to embark on multiple adventures, contemplate the conditions you will face. If you think you can make it, keep in mind the above-mentioned five tips.  And good luck!

This article was conceived and written by Luca Lampariello


Ich lerne Englisch und Deutsch.

Feed your mind with as many commonly used phrases, expressions, idioms and other bits and pieces of the language as possible. The trouble with speaking to somebody is that you have to produce a lot of sentences quite fast. Language learners are often overwhelmed with this complex task. 'Consuming' dialogues is not as difficult as 'producing' a dialogue. So, get your hands on films, movies, audio books, theatre plays, etc. and delve into them. Enjoy this 'input' phase and take hope from the fact that the quantity of your 'input' directly correlates to the quality of the output you will be able to produce.
I learn two languages at the same time and I have no problem about it. It's even better.
I have been learning many languages at the same time and I find it ok. I started learning English when I was 32, from scratch, about 6 years ago I go on with French, then with German (I studied these languages as a pupil), and in the last with Italian, two years ago. I think the most important is to learn vocabulary, I have many words lists that I read in the tram, every morning, on my way to work, then I listen news on TV on a regular basis. Deutsche welle is very good for German of any level, I adore especially a programm about traveling. Routine is very important also and of course the pleasure of learning. And yes, you can learn all you want, no matter the age.

Monday, January 12, 2015

Khuyến học


"Đáng buồn là nước ta chỉ có người Nhật mà không có quốc dân Nhật."
...

"Cả ngàn năm qua, chính phủ nắm trong tay mọi quyền hành trên đất nước... Nhân dân chỉ còn biết nhắm mắt tuân theo các chỉ thị của chính phủ. Đất nước ta giống như tài sản riêng của chính phủ, còn nhân dân chẳng khác nào như những người ăn nhờ ở đậu vậy... Và thế thì quốc gia cũng chỉ như cái nhà trọ, để người dân tạm dừng chân trong cuộc đời họ mà thôi..."

Friday, December 26, 2014

How to become a millionaire by age 30

Getting rich and becoming a millionaire is a taboo topic. Saying it can be done by the age of 30 seems like a fantasy.

It shouldn't be taboo and it is possible. At the age of 21, I got out of college, broke and in debt, and by the time I was 30, I was a millionaire.

Here are the 10 steps that will guarantee you will become a millionaire by 30.

1. Follow the money. In today's economic environment you cannot save your way to millionaire status. The first step is to focus on increasing your income in increments and repeating that.

My income was $3,000 a month and nine years later it was $20,000 a month. Start following the money and it will force you to control revenue and see opportunities.

2. Don't show off — show up! I didn't buy my first luxury watch or car until my businesses and investments were producing multiple secure flows of income. I was still driving a Toyota Camry when I had become a millionaire. Be known for your work ethic, not the trinkets that you buy.

3. Save to invest, don't save to save. The only reason to save money is to invest it.  Put your saved money into secured, sacred (untouchable) accounts. Never use these accounts for anything, not even an emergency. This will force you to continue to follow step one (increase income). To this day, at least twice a year, I am broke because I always invest my surpluses into ventures I cannot access.

4. Avoid debt that doesn't pay you. Make it a rule that you never use debt that won't make you money. I borrowed money for a car only because I knew it could increase my income. Rich people use debt to leverage investments and grow cash flows. Poor people use debt to buy things that make rich people richer.

5. Treat money like a jealous lover. Millions wish for financial freedom, but only those that make it a priority have millions. To get rich and stay rich you will have to make it a priority. Money is like a jealous lover. Ignore it and it will ignore you, or worse, it will leave you for someone who makes it a priority.

6. Money doesn't sleep. Money doesn't know about clocks, schedules, or holidays, and you shouldn't either. Money loves people that have a great work ethic. When I was 26 years old, I was in retail and the store I worked at closed at 7 p.m. Most times you could find me there at 11 p.m. making an extra sale. Never try to be the smartest or luckiest person — just make sure you outwork everyone.

7. Poor makes no sense. I have been poor, and it sucks. I have had just enough and that sucks almost as bad. Eliminate any and all ideas that being poor is somehow OK. Bill Gates has said, "If you're born poor, it's not your mistake. But if you die poor, it is your mistake."

8. Get a millionaire mentor. Most of us were brought up middle class or poor and then hold ourselves to the limits and ideas of that group. I have been studying millionaires to duplicate what they did. Get your own personal millionaire mentor and study them. Most rich people are extremely generous with their knowledge and their resources.

9. Get your money to do the heavy lifting. Investing is the Holy Grail in becoming a millionaire and you should make more money off your investments than your work. If you don't have surplus money you won't make investments. The second company I started required a $50,000 investment. That company has paid me back that $50,000 every month for the last 10 years.

My third investment was in real estate, where I started with $350,000, a large part of my net worth at the time. I still own that property today and it continues to provide me with income. Investing is the only reason to do the other steps, and your money must work for you and do your heavy lifting.

10. Shoot for $10 million, not $1 million. The single biggest financial mistake I've made was not thinking big enough. I encourage you to go for more than a million. There is no shortage of money on this planet, only a shortage of people thinking big enough.

Apply these 10 steps and they will make you rich. Steer clear of people that suggest your financial dreams are born of greed. Avoid get-rich-quick schemes, be ethical, never give up, and once you make it, be willing to help others get there too.

Thursday, August 21, 2014

Hạnh phúc ươm mầm vì bạn hiểu thế nào là đau khổ

6 loại đau khổ tuổi trẻ nhất định phải trải qua:

Một thời vùng vẫy, quằn quại, mình mẩy xác xơ, tim chắp vá, đầu nguội lại, lòng trơ trọi. Một thời từ đau khổ này qua đau khổ kia. Rồi một ngày, bạn thấy mình lớn lên. Và bạn biết ơn tuổi trẻ với những đau khổ ấy biết dường nào.


Có rất nhiều loại đau khổ, mà để trưởng thành, bạn nhất quyết phải trải qua

1. Loại đau khổ thấy đấng sinh thành rơi nước mắt

Bất hiếu là bất nhân. Trên đời này, thứ tình yêu vĩnh viễn, trinh nguyên, cao thượng và vô điều kiện chỉ tồn tại giữa cha mẹ và con cái. Bạn nhất định phải một lần nhói lòng vì làm cha mẹ buồn, xấu hổ khi làm cha mẹ thất vọng. Nhất định phải nếm được vị đắng của giọt mồ hôi rơi xuống từ bờ vai gầy của cha mẹ. Thậm chí, phải dằn vặt bản thân vì chưa làm được gì cho cha mẹ. Nếu lớn lên mà hờ hững với những người vì bạn mà vất vả, vì bạn mà rơi nước mắt, bạn sẽ đánh mất trái tim của mình.

2. Loại đau khổ bị người yêu hơn cả bản thân phản bội

Mối tình đầu, mối tình thứ hai, mối tình thứ ba, đơn phương, tay ba, hay vòng vo không dứt, dù là mối tình thế nào, một lần thất tình là cần thiết. Trái tim nếu không biết đau, sao có thể quý trọng hạnh phúc. Cõi lòng nếu không cô đơn, sao có thể biết tin vào sự bền vững, sao đôi chân có thể dừng lại, sao có thể biết đến thế nào là giá trị của sự tin tưởng?

3. Loại đau khổ lòng tự tôn bị chà đạp, cái tôi bị xé nát

Tuổi trẻ như gió, chỉ thích bay cao, cái tôi như hổ, không chịu khuất phục thứ gì. Chính vì cái ngạo mạn vô tận của đứa trẻ đang lớn, nên mới cần một lần té thật đau. Trong chuyện tình cảm, học tập, công việc, bạn bè, chúng ta đều vì một chữ ‘sĩ’ mà ít nhiều làm sai, ít nhiều làm đau người khác, làm đau bản thân. Té một thật đau, khóc một lần khô cạn cả lòng, thấy cái tôi của mình bị tổn thương nghiêm trọng, rồi nhận ra mình bé nhỏ lắm, thế giới rộng lớn lắm, nhất định phải biết mình biết ta. Tới một ngày nào đó, có thể cúi đầu nói ra câu em còn kém lắm, xin hãy giúp đỡ”, có thể cảm nhận được sự khiêm tốn hình thành, khi đó, ắt hẳn đã trưởng thành.

4. Loại đau khổ thấy mình vô dụng, thất bại chồng chất

Nhìn thấy người khác cứ vượt lên trên, bỏ xa mình một khoảng cách dài, bạn cố chạy theo nhưng chỉ thấy thấy bại, thấy vấp ngã. Bạn hối hận vì ngày đó không cố gắng học tập, hối hận vì ngày đó để cơ hội trôi đi, thất bại vì đã chọn điều này chứ không chọn điều kia. Bạn cảm thấy bản thân chẳng có gì để tự hào.Nhưng một ngày kia bạn cảm thấy mình thất bại quá nhiều, mà vẫn còn chưa bỏ cuộc, thì bạn mạnh mẽ hơn bạn tưởng đấy. Cuộc đời rải đầy hoa hồng thì chẳng có thử thách nào rèn dũa và trao cho bạn cơ hội thể hiện nghị lực cả. Nhìn thấy cuộc đời không dễ dàng mới một lòng phấn đấu. Bạn biết đấy, thành công không dành cho người sớm bỏ cuộc.

5. Loại đau khổ vì tự ti, quá xấu, quá nghèo, quá ngu

Ghen tị có thể bào mòn trái tim người ta rất ghê gớm. Bạn sinh ra không được xinh đẹp, không gia thế, không khôn ngoan? Chỉ cần so sánh, ắt sẽ sinh ra đau khổ. Nhưng cuộc đời không phải một cuộc đua, không phải cứ ai bắn phát súng bên tai thì mình phải chạy, ai cũng có cái đích của bản thân, hạnh phúc của người khác chắc gì khiến tim bản thân mình vui? Chẳng ai hoàn hảo, mọi người đều tự sâu bên trong có điều gì đó khiến họ tự ti, thậm chí, càng lớn lên người ta càng có quá nhiều điều để so sánh, càng có nhiều điều để tự ti. Một lần đau khổ một tuổi trẻ vì nghèo, vì xấu, vì ngu rồi, thì hãy hạnh phúc vì những gì mình đang có nhé.

6. Loại đau khổ không hiểu vì sao mình phải bị sinh ra

Có tới hàng ngàn người trải qua cảm giác muốn cứa một đường dài vào cổ tay, muốn đẩy cửa nhảy xuống từ tầng lầu cao nhất. Loại đau khổ tột bật thống khổ nhất là cảm thấy không còn thiết sống nữa. Loại đau khổ hình thành khi mọi thứ đã tận, chỉ còn bế tắc. Nhất là tuổi trẻ khám phá ra cuộc đời chỉ là một mớ hỗn độn, rất nhiều người thay vì đối mặt với nó thì lẩn trốn. Nếu bạn đã gặp cảm giác bi thương này thì coi như sẽ chẳng còn thống khổ nào hơn nữa, từ đây, bạn có thể đối mặt với tất cả rồi. Coi như, cuộc đời, dù chỉ là một mớ hỗn độn,vẫn có thể níu chân bạn từ tầng nhà ấy, tình yêu, dù chỉ là cổ tích, vẫn có thể khiến bạn muốn tin thêm lần nữa, thành công, dù xa vời biết bao nhiêu, vẫn có thể khiến bạn muốn thử.

Li vỡ tất nhiên không thể lành, nhưng con người không phải thủy tinh, không phải đá, không phải gỗ, con người có sức bền bỉ rất khủng khiếp, tuổi trẻ có thể hồi phục rất mạnh mẽ. Một thời vùng vẫy, quằn quại, mình mẩy xác xơ, tim chắp vá, đầu nguội lạnh, lòng trơ trọi. Một thời từ đau khổ này qua đau khổ kia. Rồi một ngày, bạn thấy mình lớn lên. Và bạn biết ơn tuổi trẻ với những đau khổ ấy biết dường nào.Bạn nhìn thấy mình hôm nay là một phần của hôm qua, và hạnh phúc ươm mầm vì bạn hiểu thế nào là đau khổ. 

Quan trọng là, hãy tin, và hãy yêu.

đéo biết nguồn (đbn)

Thursday, June 5, 2014

You have to do the hard things


You have to make the call you’re afraid to make.
You have to get up earlier than you want to get up.
You have to give more than you get in return right away.
You have to care more about others than they care about you.
You have to fight when you are already injured, bloody, and sore.
You have to feel unsure and insecure when playing it safe seems smarter.
You have to lead when no one else is following you yet.
You have to invest in yourself even though no one else is.
You have to look like a fool while you’re looking for answers you don’t have.
You have to grind out the details when it’s easier to shrug them off.
You have to deliver results when making excuses is an option.
You have to search for your own explanations even when you’re told to accept the “facts”.
You have to make mistakes and look like an idiot.
You have try and fail and try again.
You have to run faster even though you’re out of breath.
You have to be kind to people who have been cruel to you.
You have to meet deadlines that are unreasonable and deliver results that are unparalleled.
You have to be accountable for your actions even when things go wrong.
You have to keep moving towards where you want to be no matter what’s in front of you.

You have to do the hard things.

The things that no one else is doing. The things that scare you. The things that make you wonder how much longer you can hold on.
Those are the things that define you. Those are the things that make the difference between living a life of mediocrity or outrageous success.

The hard things are the easiest things to avoid. To excuse away. To pretend like they don’t apply to you.

The simple truth about how ordinary people accomplish outrageous feats of success is that they do the hard things that smarter, wealthier, more qualified people don’t have the courage — or desperation — to do.

Do the hard things. You might be surprised at how amazing you really are.

Source: danwaldschmidt.com

Thursday, May 1, 2014

Turn off your tears... and listen



I hate to see you cry
Lying there in that position
There's things you need to hear
So turn off your tears
And listen

Pain throws your heart to the ground
Love turns the whole thing around
No it won't all go the way it should
But I know the heart of life is good

You know, it's nothing new
Bad news never had good timing
Then, circle of your friends
Will defend the silver lining

Pain throws your heart to the ground
Love turns the whole thing around
No it won't all go the way it should
But I know the heart of life is good

Pain throws your heart to the ground
Love turns the whole thing around
Fear is a friend who's misunderstood
But I know the heart of life is good
I know it's good

 

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